Cancer with Aries

Start with the two perspectives

From the Cancer side, the profile emphasizes care, memory and sensitivity to atmosphere. The Aries profile adds initiative, courage and directness. Start by asking where those descriptions match the way each person actually likes to communicate and make plans.

Elements and everyday connection

Cancer belongs to Water, associated with emotional atmosphere and trust. Aries belongs to Fire, associated with initiative and enthusiasm. Compare what each person means by support. One may want a conversation while the other starts making a plan.

Pace and shared plans

The cardinal mode of Cancer emphasizes beginning a task and setting a direction. The cardinal mode of Aries emphasizes beginning a task and setting a direction. Decide how you will start, maintain and revise a shared plan.

A conversation to try

On the Cancer side, notice expecting someone to recognize a need that has not been spoken. On the Aries side, notice rushing a decision or turning every disagreement into a contest. Discuss one recent example without assigning the other person a motive.

Ask what would make the next conversation easier. Use a specific request and give the other person time to answer.